Knowing who your partner is is essential whether you are in a new relationship, dating, or married for the longest time.
From their love language to how they handle conflict and their values and beliefs, it is the best way to spice up your relationship because you will know how to treat each other.
Here is a list of nine things you should know about your partner.
What are their relationship patterns?
Knowing your partner’s relationship pattern will help you see whether they are fit or healthy emotionally. Ask them about their past relationships and notice how they talk about them.
You need to know whether they grew in their past relationships. If they still need to, have they learned what they should do?
Do they have boundaries?
To build a robust and healthy relationship with your partner, they must demonstrate the ability to create clear boundaries with either friends or family members.
Can they have uncomfortable conversations?
As a couple, sometimes you need to talk about uncomfortable but critical topics. How does your partner handle themselves during such times? Does he listen and take feedback or avoid and deflect from the conversations?
Do their values align with yours?
It’s crucial to find out whether you and your partner have the same values before getting into a serious relationship with them.
Find out if you are in the same line of thoughts about issues or important topics that might influence your relationship.
If not, it’s better not to get into it because you’ll always be fighting over whose values are superior to others.
How do they handle conflict?
The foundation of a healthy relationship is how you both come back after a conflict. How does your partner handle themselves when a problem exists?
Do the two of you handle the conflict as a team, or do they walk away blaming you for everything?
What are their triggers?
When you get into a relationship, you might not have time to think or imagine that one day your partner’s past might pop up, and you will learn things you wish you had known earlier.
The truth is, their past could come back sooner or later and end up haunting and opening fresh wounds.
Now that you are in their presence, it’s only suitable to help them overcome it. You will only know how if you know their history and triggers.
What is their love language?
Anyone in a romantic relationship wants to feel loved. Find out how your partner would like to be loved and what actions you can take to make this happen for both of you.
Is it gifts, hugs, touch, presence, absence or kiss? Remember that what might feel loving to you might not feel loving to them.
Are they open to evolution?
Knowing whether or not both of you are on the same page regarding your growth and evolution journey is important.
Your partner might not share the same life goals as yours, and that’s okay! It’s the first step to understanding they are not ready to go on your journey.
If you often hear phrases such as ‘this is who I am’ or ‘take it or leave it’, then be sure to know they are not open to evolution.
Are they hard on themselves after a mistake?
How do they handle themselves after making a human mistake? Do they hate and punish themselves, or show some grace and forgive themselves?
The same way they treat themselves after a mistake is the same way they will treat you for a human error.
